FAQ

Sex addiction is also known as sexual compulsion or hypersexual disorder. It can occur in a variety of behaviors which all share a common dynamic: the behavior becomes more and more of a major focus in one’s life, often becoming a priority over relationships, and other activities. Sex addiction can best be described as a compulsive relationship with a sexual behavior that interferes with normal living and ultimately causes severe distress to self and to loved ones. (see ‘Sex Addiction Treatment’ for additional information).

Sex addiction has the component of compulsivity: wanting to stop or limit the behavior but unable to; continuing the behavior even if there are negative consequences.

Yes. We are finding more women seeking help as internet applications become easier to access and provide more diverse possibilities.

Yes. Like many other addictions it is important to look at how a healthy and natural behavior can become an unhealthy one. A sign that you may be in that unhealthy zone is becoming overly dependent on the object of your love. Although it may not be in your conscious awareness you become addicted to the ‘high’ of feeling in love and that high becomes a major focus in your life. Often your partner’s needs are put before your own, and desperate measures may be taken to avoid separation (which may feel like abandonment). Loss of the relationship can result in anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts. Usually a love-addicted relationship is one of high drama, many breakups and makeups, rushed commitments and poor self-supporting boundaries.

As in other forms of sex addiction use of pornography can become compulsive, meaning that it will continue despite negative consequences. It can lead to increased isolation from human contact and to a loss of intimacy within a relationship. Like drug use that, over time, requires a higher dosage to achieve the same results, one can build a ‘tolerance’ to pornography where more intense imagery is sought, or more time is spent viewing in order to achieve the original novelty. These powerful images can ‘hijack the brain’ leading to a new sexual set point that traditional sexual interaction may no longer satisfy, sometimes resulting in ED. Porn addiction is not considered a lapse in morality, but can result in shame and low self-esteem for the addict, whose new sexuality may no longer align with his or her core authentic values.

The goal of sex addiction treatment is not abstinence, but getting to a healthy expression of one’s sexuality. This expression is unique to each individual, so the clinical focus should be to help align one’s behaviors to a well thought-out vision of healthy sexuality consistent with one’s own personal standards of integrity.

Discovering that your partner has had a secret life can be devastating and can result in what addiction specialists call ‘the betrayal trauma’. You will likely be dealing with the pain, confusion, fear and self-doubt that often emerges at this time. You may be feeling responsible for your partner’s behavior (you’re not!), you may be wondering whether to stay or go, and you may be questioning whether the relationship can ever be repaired. Healing is possible. Getting support for yourself is the first step (view our Treatment for the Partner service for additional information).

You have been affected by a deeply troubling experience that will likely require emotional support, guidance in planning for the immediate future, and a full understanding of the options available to you.

This is a very common occurrence and highlights the importance of reaching out to a trained specialist who can give support and in-depth education about sex addiction.

A CSAT is usually someone with a graduate-level clinical degree who has received further education and specialization in sex addiction therapy. Many of our clients are referred to us by traditional therapists as a medical doctor might refer a patient to a specialist.

The Center for Personal Growth is not affiliated with any in-network insurance providers, and does not accept third-party payment. However, you may be eligible for partial reimbursement depending on your policy’s mental health benefits. The Center will then provide you with a monthly ‘insurance- ready’ invoice to submit to your provider (view our Fees for additional information).

Please contact us if you have any additional questions.